I think we all know who Kim Davis is but for the few who don’t, she is the County Clerk of Rowan County, Kentucky. She is defying the Supreme Court Fourteenth Amendment Ruling of right to marriage for same-sex couples by denying them marriage licenses. She has even been jailed. What I want to discuss is the country’s response to it and more specifically, the reaction of other women to her actions.
More often then not, when compared to straight men, straight women are more accepting of the LGBTQ community. If I had to guess maybe I would say that women are generally more opened minded because we too are used to being marginalized. We understand the pain associated with being thought of and treated as less than simply because of how we were born. So when the story about Kim Davis appeared, it started a double pronged firestorm. Some people were upset because regardless of her beliefs or even theirs, she was breaking the law. Their thinking was along the lines of, “if you don’t like the law, work to change it, but don’t break it.” However, the other half were appalled for a much deeper reason, maybe even a reason that they weren’t even aware of. They were up in arms because she too was marginalizing people for how they were born.
The public’s response ranged from logical to horribly vicious. What I was most disturbed by was other women “slut shaming” her and for ANYONE to bring up her past. I realize there is an emotional component to this, that gay and lesbian people have been marginalized and it is happening yet again but how does bring up her past help? How does tearing apart a persons character like a pack of wild dogs help the issue? Besides, it wasn’t even needed to make the cause because she was BREAKING THE LAW. Everyone would eventually get justice based on the law.
Full disclosure: I am a straight woman and I do NOT agree with Kim Davis. I honestly am great friends with many gay, lesbian, and trans folks and have fought side by side with them for their equal rights. However, I think when a situation calls for a 1-10 response we should start with 1 and work our way up 10, not start at 11.
I found the entire situation a sad display of mob mentality. Much of America called her everything from a whore to a dirty redneck because they didn’t agree with her behavior. When did it become ok to viciously attack someone we don’t agree with? Isn’t that the very notion that all marginalized people are fighting against?